Court marriage is a controversial topic that is still debated by many. But what is the real impact of court marriage on a girl’s psychology? And is Islam supportive of it? We have the current Dua Zehra case in front of us, from Pakistan. This blog explores all these questions and more, based on Islamic Thought. So, if you’re considering getting married in court, be sure to read this blog first to understand all the Pros and cons of this controversial topic!
Case of Dua Zehra
Dua Zehra, 14 years old from Karachi, recently runs away from her home to marry a 17 years old boy in Lahore. They come to know each other first time on the online game PUBG, almost 3 years ago. As the case catches hype on social media and mainstream media, the newly court-wed couple is now facing problems either regarding their ages, marriage illegality, or nikah invalidity.
In short, it seems a huge population is against this wedding, including Dua’s parents. One reason is that the case has a lot of unexplained events behind it. Either there is some Mafia who is supporting them financially or it’s a simple love marriage. Whatever the findings would be, both families are badly in the criticism all over the country.
According to a recent update ( when this blog is being written), the Sindh high court has ordered to bring Dua Zehra to Karachi, once again, for the hearing.
To sum up, Dua is not the only girl who took this step. There are a lot of court marriages on daily basis, all over the world. There is a big ‘need of the hour‘ for parents to have friendly relationships with their kids. The author completely discourages a run-away marriage, because it never proves good for the girl’s psychology, after a few months or years. These marriages are highly recorded as failed or ‘gone wrong’.
What is Islam’s view about court marriage?
Islam is the second-largest religion in the world and is practiced by over 1.5 billion people. Marriage is one of the many practices that are encouraged in Islam. It is seen as a means of preserving and strengthening family ties. When two families are united through marriage, it strengthens the social fabric of society. On a more fundamental level though, marriage in Islam is a contract between two people: both parties must adhere to its terms faithfully in order for it to work satisfactorily. Accordingly, the woman’s role within this equation revolves around obeying her husband and providing him with emotional and physical support – whatever he may ask of her.
Moreover, Islamic law stipulates that girls have the right to choose their husband, provided he meets certain criteria (e.g., compatibility). If she does not like her husband, this can negatively impact her psyche. In fact, there are several hadiths (a saying or story attributed to Prophet Muhammad) advising Muslim women against marrying men who do not treat them well! Islamic philosophy is based on the belief that all human beings are created in the image of God. This means that every individual has a unique set of values and dispositions – which is why each person’s psychology is so important.
All these concepts are about a normal (arranged or love) marriage done by the consent of both families. Court marriage, however, is an opposite of all this. It is considered in Pakistani society, a runaway marriage, in which parents of neither boy nor girl are involved. Therefore, the issues of life security become a big problem for the couple, afterward in life.
Islam, although gives right to woman to choose her husband, never encourages to marry in this way. We have no example from islam history for this type of marriage. No doubt, parents, their happiness and prayers for the new couple matters alot. It is the matter of the next generation which may feel bad to remain under the banner of ‘child of runaway parents’, all life. So, parents have to seriously think about their relationships with their childen to avoid more runaway court marriages in future.
The impact of court marriage on a girl’s psychology
Court or runaway marriage often results in more domestic violence and less access to resources for women overall. For girls, this can have a profound psychological impact on their development. She may feel trapped in the marriage and may not be able to express her feelings freely. This can have a negative impact on , not only her mental health and well-being, but also her upcoming children.
There is no denying in it that court marriage is a big problem; especially while living in an Islamic and Shariah law society. It is caused by forced marriage, lack of choice, and social stigma attached to it. The case of Dua Zehra has the same causes, according to media reports. Most of these problems are caused by the fact that court marriage is often a hurry-up arrangement for runaway wedlock.
There are huge data showing court marriage ruining the psychological health of the girl tremendously and leaving her with scars that she never forget. It is a complex and often traumatic experience for the victim (couple). They are subjected to the family dynamics of a court marriage which can be incredibly difficult and stressful. They are also expected to be perfect spouses who never make any mistakes. This can be mentally torturing, as they’re constantly under pressure to conform to the demands of their in-laws and/or husband/wife.
This marriage should never be an option for girls. It is not a healthy and appropriate decision for them in so many ways. They should never have to go through unstoppable trauma and pain, just to get married. As we took the case of Dua Zehra from Pakistan, she is facing court trials every single day. Must read the blog regarding child-parent relationships.
Damage to reputation after getting court married
Court marriage is a common phenomenon in the world nowadays, but it comes with its own set of risks. After getting married in court, there is a risk that your reputation will be damaged. You may find it difficult to find employment or relationships because of the stigma attached to court marriage. Understand what you’re getting yourself into before getting married in court, and don’t underestimate the power of social media and word-of-mouth. In the case of Dua Zehra, we see how the whole family of the boy and the girl are suffering continuously.
Frequently Asked Questions
What are the consequences of a failed court marriage?
Failed court marriages can have a number of consequences. One result may be that the marriage is dissolved and each party may seek legal or other remedies. A second result may be that one or both parties remain married, but their relationship is damaged. In some cases, a failed court marriage can lead to children being born out of wedlock, which can have significant legal and social consequences.
What are the risks of court marriage?
The risks of court marriage are that couples may not be able to resolve their disputes through the court system, and may end up in court because of issues such as violation of a court order or property rights.
Conclusion
Court marriage is a controversial topic that has been the subject of much debate. However, the purpose of this blog is not to debate the pros or cons of court marriage, but to explore the psychological impact of this type of marriage on a girl. Islamic law is based on the precept that marriage is a contract between two consenting adults, and as such, should be entered into with full knowledge and understanding of the implications. The blog also explores how court marriage can have a negative impact on a girl’s psychology, and provides insights from Islamic thought to help make sense of the situation. If you have any questions or comments, please feel free to leave them below and we’ll get back to you.
In the end, the author would recommend the behavioral-psychologist Sahil Adeem, for knowing the best parenting model for the future.
